Most Women Have Lost Themselves But Hope Is Not Lost

I'm sure many wife's and mother's know what I am talking about with the above title.  It can be hard to admit that the person you once were has vanished and you are unable to locate her.  Our feelings are suppressed by the millions of things that we have to accomplish in our daily life's.  I know there have been many women that feel as though this is their life and that is the way it will be from now on.  But, to have this kind of outlook on yourself and life is not healthy and here's  why, resentment.  Over time, you will not realize it, but that resentment will kick you right in your ass and you will start to feel some kind of way toward the people in your life and affect those relationships.  

I know for me personally, I was starting to accept that my life was just about my children, being a wife and career woman. I failed to take care of myself, which is something that we all have to do as women.  For many years, I was just going through the motions of everyday life of raising my children, taking care of my wifey duties and completing daily task that needed to be done within the home.  I did not realize that while I was working so hard to not neglect my household, I was ignoring my needs as women.   I was married young at the age of 21,I had my first child at 21 also (2002) and had my second child at 33 (2013).  All those years had went by and I just realized this year 2015 that I missed the many important things about myself and just growing as a women.  I began to feel sadden by what I had lost.  Now don't get me wrong, I love my family and would not trade them for anything, but I must admit I did not know myself anymore. I had forgotten what makes me happy. 

My body had gone and I gained over 50 pounds from what my weight range should be.  Due to stress my hair was starting to fall out, I had high blood pressure  and to be honest  my spirit was broken and I did not realize it.  With all of that, I continued to function like a machine trying to get everything done, give love to my family but neglecting to give it to myself.  I understand how people can suppress their feelings as mine had been pushed aside for many years until now.  It does not matter if you have children or you are married, you do not have to lose yourself in your family. 

Take time out for you because you deserve it, I deserve it.  You can still be a wife a mommy and still be in tune with yourself. You can still be that sexy cosmopolitan girl you once were.  Put your happiness as a first priority because if you do not, your children will notice you are not happy, which will just hurt them anyway. Having happy, healthy and energetic parents promotes confidence in your children.  I have signed up to get on that gravy train:)  I have decided that I'm going to get back to my pre-pregnancy weight, I will start writing (this blog) to express myself, love myself more, keep positive people around me and more importantly, JUST DO WHAT MAKES ME HAPPY!  I hope that anyone that is reading this will do the same and remember you are not stuck and have the power to change anything in your life you do not like. Happy Friday:)

 

 

Excuse My Absence

Hello Wednesday,

I have been absent from my blog and I have missed writing and posting pictures just to express myself and what I am experiencing in my life at the time or just being plain silly.  Alot has went on in my life since my last blog and some might view the bad things as failures, but I see them as life pushing you in the direction that you should be in.  Boy have I had alot of pushing and moving in different direction this past year.  I have said to myself that I will follow my motto of "Just Do What Makes You Happy".  Life is too short and we have to take the time out for ourselves as women to give what we need and for me that is being a better friend to myself and ensuring that I stay committed to being happy and living my life as a young woman with no regrets.  At this moment, I must admit, I have alot of regrets and I don't want to say that for much longer:)  I will be posting more frequently on my blog. I am putting my intentions out in the universe and I will try my absolute best to updating this blog at least three times a week, Monday, Wednesday and Friday.

Love Always,

Nicole xoxo

Keeping It Real On a Friday Girlfriend

Keeping It Real on a Friday Girlfriend:

Let us take a moment to address the big elephant in the room on an issue that might be a little uncomfortable and let’s face it, maybe a bit unacceptable to discuss in a social setting. What am I talking about? Drop flush. For those of you that still do not know what I’m talking about, it’s flushing the toilet while you are, you know, going number 2 in the restroom. Now I have to be honest here, I hate using a public restroom and I would rather much just try and hold it when I get to the comfort of my own home, BUT, we all know how it goes, there are those times that you have had one burrito with cheese too many and those bubbles in your stomach are not going to wait until you get home.

There have been on many occasions times where I have walked into the restroom and felt as though I would pass out with someone going number 2, or keeping it real, blowing the roof of that sucker. We are all self-conscious with some things I would think and you want to let it out in comfort vs. someone looking at your shoes under the stall so they know who to make fun of (Don’t act like you haven’t done it girl). Below are some things that you can do to prepare yourself if you know that you are going to have a long day in the restroom, wink, wink.

1.  Come to terms that you are simply not going to be able to hold it

2.  Make sure you have some wet wipes. Now I don’t think anyone is going to be walking around with a big tube of wipes (then everyone will know). But it won’t hurt you to put a few of those babies let’s say, in a small zip-lock bag. You know what that will be for girl…to clean up any messes. To add, you don’t want to have Mrs. Itchy haunting you.

3. If you have a small spray bottle with a sweet scent you can go ahead and bring that with you, just in case there is no air freshener in the restroom. Now I’m not saying to Bath and Body Works that sucker, but you can lightly spray in your area to deter the smell. You want the stall to smell maybe like some fresh roses and not a sewer girl.

4.  This has got to be the biggest tip of them all. If you want to prevent from being completely embarrassed, drop and flush. What do I mean by this, as soon as your poop (for lady-like sake, let’s call them brown friends) hit’s the toilet (aka swimming pool), go ahead and just flush. If you let them sit there and marinate, you’re just going to run everyone out the restroom including yourself. Better yet, before the puppy is getting ready to drop just go ahead pre-flush.

5. Please be sure that you flush and clean up after yourself. There are other people that will be using the restroom after you and no one needs to see it looking like World War III in that sucker. Keep it cute girl, and keep it clean.  

Now I know this can be an embarrassing subject to discuss, but I want to give women some tips to prevent an embarrassing nightmare. It is quite obvious to me that some people need some pointers. If you do not believe me about the drop flush method, just try it, doing so will change your life girlfriend. Take care and remember to also be courteous, because I think I can speak for the majority of women, we don’t want to get a whiff of the kind of sandwich you had for lunch.

Take care my friends and be kind to each other,

Nicole Tokatlioglu

Fun day with the family

Today was a very hot day but a great day. You could feel the heat hit our face as soon as we stepped outside. First we went to this resturant called Laguna madre, the seafood was off the rails good. While I wanted to go to the park, it was just too hot for the baby. We headed back to the house so daddy and son could have a day at the movies. They saw Planet of The Apes. While they were at the movies me and the baby hit target. Today was a great day spent with my family

Ear infection

Ear infections are no fun. Alanya hasn't been feeling well and developed an ear infection. Hopefully the antibotics will work and she will get better soon. My poor pumkin kiss.

Selfies

Happy 4th of july